A Guide to Support Your Journey

Healing and spiritual growth is not linear in the way that it shapes itself reflective to the individual. That being said it does show clear stages that you can recognise on the path that helps to identify where you are at and where you are heading.

These following stages are to be used as a guide. You will often find that you could be experiencing different stages within different aspects of your life at the one time therefore can relate to a couple.

Each stage presents a shift in a state of consciousness (perceptual experience). As you move through the stages you can find yourself cycling back through the stages within that stage (e.g. could be in stage 5 however find yourself questioning more (stage 3) as you further your studies).

I liken this system to the Endocrine System of the body which is closely connected to the Vedic Chakra System and many other ancient systems of health. Each stage is interconnected to the other, transmitting information for your highest potential.

It’s important to note here there is no hierarchy of stages or judgement towards where you feel you may be at as each stage provides a sense of security and safety.

Key Message

  • A spiritual path is not linear
  • Your path will shape itself around where you are
  • There are clear stages to recognise on your path
  • Each stage reflects a shift in consciousness / perception
  • Each stage is interconnected with the other to support your potential
  • There is no hierarchy of stages

Absence of Awareness

A person at this stage may not recognise or have a connection to their spiritual self. You could say this is a state of being unconscious to anything beyond the physical, that being focused on the day to day needs of living.

There are many people that focus on the material world all their lives which is fine as we all have different beliefs that support our stages of consciousness. It is possible to live happily appreciating what you have in this world without questioning your existence however this stage is simple on the journey and sooner or later there may be the urge to seek inwards.

Common focus is providing basic needs and individual comforts of living. This stage is very attached to the ‘I AM’ or the MY’ness  in all aspects of your life; relationship, career, money, clothes, cars, status, success etc which are a great source of suffering.

This stage lives satisfying unconscious needs in the hope that it will bring happiness however it will always be influenced by external circumstances.

Questions to Ask

  • How much emphasis do I place on how I look?
  • Do I live in worry and anxiousness?
  • Am I  jealous of what others have?
  • Do I compare and judge myself and others?
  • Is it easy for me to speak my truth?
  • How much do I worry about money?
  • Do I have a lot of drama in my life?
  • Do I need people to approve of what I am doing?
  • How often do I question how I am feeling?
  • Do I think about how my actions affect others?

'I AM'

  • May not recognise or have connection to mental, emotional or spiritual self
  • Focused on the material
  • Happy living the day to day existence without questioning more about life
  • Don’t question your thoughts, emotions or behaviour
  • Attached to material needs for sense of happiness and fulfilment
  • Place strong sense of self and meaning on what you have verses who you are
  • Your happiness is externally influenced by what is happening to you
  • You may not question what you have grown up believing

Recognition of  ‘Something More’

At some stage in many peoples’ lives there comes a niggling inside that there must be something more to life. This can either be triggered by a difficult time in your life or through having a spiritual experience that had a profound affect on you.

This stage of wondering about spirituality can be with people for many years before feeling the call to question further, some even stay here all their lives. There are many reasons why someone can stay in this stage for long periods of time with the main being; fear of change, fear of the unknown, being different to their family and friends or fear of being isolated.

Because of fear people can suppress this calling and develop beliefs to support their decision however the niggling doesn’t go away. For those that don’t respond to this recognition there can be a sense of ‘something missing’ that nothing can fulfil.

Questions to Ask

  • Does my life feel like a cycle of sameness where I end up in the same position over and over
  • How much of what I do day to day fulfils me
  • Do I truly express who I am and how I feel
  • How often do I feel stuck with where I am in life
  • Do I believe I have the power to choose what is right for me
  • Do I follow my instinct when making decisions
  • Do others opinions influence my decisions, if so who & why
  • Does money govern my decision making verse creativity
  • Do I take risks in my life, if so where
  • How much focus do I have on how I am feeling
  • What desires and/ideas have I had that I haven’t actioned

'I FEEL'

  • Feel there is something more to life than meets the eye
  • There is a niggling that you can’t explain
  • You are either pushed by a painful experience or pulled by a spiritual one
  • Wondering about spirituality can last many years before taken further steps
  • There may be fear of seeking further due to personal and social impact
  • If you don’t act on the niggling you may experience feelings of ‘something missing’ in your life
  • You begin to recognise your feelings and thoughts more

Curiosity to Learn More

This stage marks the transition into taking action as your curiosity of spirituality grows. You start to investigate about your own existence and have many questions you want answered. This can be a difficult time for some not knowing where to begin, it is often the stage people look into established religions to seek guidance.

For some you may have naturally gravitated towards a practice for the physical aspect initially like Yoga or Martial Arts and then over time it has deepened your curiosity to learn more beyond the physical.

Though this can be an exciting time for those eager to learn more, it can also come with discomfort at the uncertainties of spiritual life.

Some people really struggle with the not knowing and ambiguity. They prefer to step into an established spiritual path with rules and guidance rather than embrace uncertainty. This is really a time to listen to your instincts as it is a time of great vulnerability, like a child learning to make their way in the world you will feel like you are having to find your feet on this Earth once more.

It may take some time settling into this stage shifting between openness and confusion until you become more comfortable with uncertainty and adjust to your new perspective.

Questions to Ask

  • Am I starting to make more choices based on how I feel
  • Have I started to make small changes to the way I live my life
  • Do I have practices that I enjoy connecting with myself
  • How confused do I feel about life
  • Are certain relationships not fulfilling me anymore
  • Am I reading books about self help and spirituality
  • Where in my life do I feel less aligned with
  • It there something I want to change but scared of
  • Do I try to control things in my life
  • How comfortable am I with change and the unknown
  • Do I feel confident about who I am

'I DO'

  • You have a curiosity to learn more about spirituality
  • There are more questions you contemplate about your existence
  • May start to attract spiritual people towards you
  • Can natural gravitate from physical practices to more spiritual practices
  • Is a time of openness and exploration that can feel exciting
  • You start to see the world differently and experience it though your senses more
  • Can be a challenging time for some who struggle with uncertainty
  • Time of vulnerability so practice listening to your instincts
  • Eager to learn everything quickly, there is a sense of rushing and not wanting to waste anymore time
  • Takes time to adjust to you new perspetive

Spiritual Exploration & Study

At this stage, you are becoming more committed to your spiritual path and are making changes that feel aligned with your heart. You start to receive insights and trust your inner guidance verse being influenced externally.

This is a stage of furthering your study which naturally sets yourself on a course of study of a particular spiritual path (or several spiritual practices). You may embrace certain ideas only to abandon or move beyond them at a later stage in your journey.

You are starting to become aware that your existence is interconnected with everything around you. Your knowledge of the universal laws that govern nature expands as does your awareness of the spiritual self.

You may begin to feel a real sense of responsibility for the people animals and plants that you share this planet with. You will become more open to possibilities and less dismissive of other peoples’ experiences.

This can be a period of exciting discovery. There may be times of bliss, but also times when you slip back into fear, doubt and old habits. This is a stage where many can feel like you have one foot in the old and one in the new which can lead to feelings of guilt. It is important to respect that change takes time and approach this stage with love and compassion.

Questions to Ask

  • Do I listen to my instincts
  • What spiritual practices am I committed to
  • Am I drawn to studying a particular path or practice
  • How often do I think about others and how they are feeling
  • Can I give without any expectation of something in return
  • Do I often contemplate about the nature of life
  • Am I aware of the seasons, the environment and the wellbeing of all living things
  • How much do I make choices based on my heart verse head
  • Am I open to other peoples experiences without a need to push my beliefs onto them
  • Is it easy for me to align my choices to my values
  • Can I take self responsibility and be accountable for my thoughts, words and actions
  • Where does fear and doubt still play a role in my life

'I LOVE'

  • You are more committed to your spiritual path
  • Can start having more insights and trust your inner guidance
  • Feel draw to study a particular spiritual path and/or practices
  • Explore different ideas and conceptions as you find your way
  • Become aware you are interconnected with everything in the Universe
  • Increased awareness to your spiritual self
  • Feel a real sense of responsibility for animals, plants and the planet
  • Open to different possibilities and less judgement towards self/others
  • Can feel like you have one foot in the old and one in the new
  • Align your choices with your heart

Spiritual Development

At this stage,  you are well on your spiritual path and have found a practice(s) that becomes as essential to your well-being as air, food, and water. You have developed a deeper awareness of what is most meaningful to you and have made significant changes to your life that aligns with them.

Your spiritual practice may not remain constant as often what we need changes over time however there will be practices that stay with you throughout your life such as; meditation, Yoga, prayer, breath work, affirmation or journaling etc. that you resonate with.

Spiritual practices are constantly evolving and expanding to integrate new spiritual ideas and experiences so remaining open to learn will support your development.

You are beginning to let go of the need to rush your spiritual progression as you understand this is a lifetime practice individual to you. You are conscious of your words, thoughts and actions more than previous stages and feel a responsibility to live by them.

There is a deepening of intimacy with yourself and you may feel drawn to start sharing some of your experience with others however being conscious not to preach your views onto others as there is  no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to live as everyone is at different stages on their path.

Questions to Ask

  • What practices do I feel most connected with
  • Do I feeling a calling to teach or support others on their journey
  • Am I guided to focus on developing one of my practices
  • Which body of knowledge and wisdom do I feel most connected with, why?
  • Do I feel the need to rush my spiritual progression
  • Do I contemplate ideas and express my creativity
  • Am I truthful to myself and others
  • Do I feel like I am truly myself in all relationships
  • How much do I contemplate others suffering
  • Do I know how I can be of greater service to humanity
  • Where am I holding myself back
  • How much of your happiness is developed from within

'I SPEAK'

  • You are well on your spiritual path
  • Your practices become essential as your breath to your well-being
  • Spiritual practices may not remain constant as you develop an understanding of your changing needs
  • Become aware of practices that will stay with you a lifetime
  • You continue to grow and expanding your knowledge integrating new spiritual ideas
  • Deeper intimacy with yourself and your connection to the universe
  • Less urge to rush your spiritual progression
  • May feel drawn to start sharing knowledge and wisdom with others

Acceptance of Yourself & Others

At this stage, you realise that there is no ‘better’ or ‘worse’ on your journey or anyone else’s. Everyone is in the perfect place for them.

The need to judge or have expectations of others dissipates as your self acceptance expands. Any feeling of superiority over others is replaced with compassion and love for people no matter how they are acting at their present spiritual stage.

You will be drawn to help and encourage others on their journey, but will not feel the need to preach your own path to anyone else. You often contemplate how you can be of service to others suffering, becoming a great source of hope and happiness.

You begin to understand that your spiritual practice is to be of purpose to humanity in the moment, that it’s more about who you are being verse what you are doing. You give unconditionally and live honourably. This way of being starts to become very natural to you.

Questions to Ask

  • How can I be of greater service to humanity
  • Can I still love others when they are acting in ways that aren’t honourable
  • Do I have expectations of others that cause me suffering
  • Can I forgive others actions and see they too are suffering
  • How can I be a source of hope and happiness to others
  • Who am I being
  • Do I feel a sense of superiority to others and where they are on their path
  • What faith do I have
  • Can I give unconditionally
  • Do I live honourably
  • How much emphasis do I put on what I am doing
  • Where does my source of happiness come from

'I SEE'

  • You realise there is no ‘better’ or ‘worse’
  • You see past others behaviour and understand their suffering
  • Understand that everyone is on their own perfect path
  • Self acceptance is expanding
  • Superiority is replaced with compassion and love for other people
  • Feel drawn to be of greater service to others on their journey
  • Become a source of hope and happiness
  • Your spiritual practice becomes more of who you are than what you do
  • Being compassionate becomes very natural to you

A Spiritual Maturity

At this point, spirituality stops being something you think about much, it becomes as organic as the breath you breathe, there isn’t anything you have to do, it just is. At this stage of spiritual maturity, you will truly understand that everything is one and the illusion of separateness will fall away.

Any attachment to desires that once caused you suffering disappear as you a live a life of equanimity. This stage of the spiritual path in Buddhism is called enlightenment and Samadhi in the Yogic tradition, where there is perfect union of the individualised soul with infinite spirit; this is the state of oneness and complete absorption.

 

Questions to Ask

  • I understand the nature of my existence and therefore there are no more questions to ask

'I UNDERSTAND'

  • Spirituality becomes as organic as breathing
  • You understand everything is one and the illusion of separation dissolves
  • You are no longer reactive or attached to worldly desires
  • Live life in equanimity
  • Attained a state of oneness and complete absorption with infinite spirit
  • You no longer have to question your existence or the ‘WHO AM I’ as you have realised ‘I AM THAT’

Karma

Wherever you are on your path there are common threads that link us all, one being, we are all subject to law of karma. Karma operates in the universe as the continuous chain reaction of cause and effect that in a sense is a moral law.

Human beings are constantly giving off physical and spiritual forces in all directions. In physics we learn that no energy is ever lost; it only changes form which is the common law of conservation of energy. Similarly, spiritual and mental action is never lost. It is transformed. Thus Karma is the law of the conservation of moral energy.

By actions, thoughts and words you are releasing spiritual energy to the universe which affects the influences you too receive. Man therefore is the sender and receiver of these influences. Your entire circumstances surrounding you are your karma.

As karma is in a constant cycle between giving and receiving of this influential energy the only way that you can transform your karma is by transformation of the self. As you change so to does your karma.

 

Dharma

Dharma is one which elevates us to a higher plane. The word ‘Dharma’ is used with different meanings in different ancient texts. In order to understand the scope of the word, some of its important origins, definitions and meanings are given here;

  • Mahabharat, Shantiparva, Adhyaya 109, Shloka 10 : The sole aim with which Dharma is advocated is to bring about the evolution of individuals. A doctrine preaches, ‘that which is able to bring about evolution is Dharma.
  • In the Brahmangranth (A Holy text), the meaning of the word ‘Dharma’ is Ashramdharma as is understood from the quote ‘त्रयो धर्मस्कन्धाः …’ from the Upanishads. It also means the duties allotted to, or accepted by, an individual according to the Varnashram.

It is said that until we attain the state of Turyavastha, we will not understand the true meaning of Dharma. Turyavastha is the fourth state beyond the three states of wakefulness, deep sleep and dream, that is, the state of meditation.

The teachings of the Buddha are often referred to as the “Dharma.” This word is closely associated with “truth”—a truth that one can know for oneself. When he taught the essence of his Dharma, the Buddha consistently avoided metaphysical and speculative ideas in favour of practical teachings that serve the path of liberation. In being practical, he emphasised perspectives and practices that lead to the end of suffering.

 

Your Karma & Dharma

Your path is your karma, created by you for your highest evolution. The teachings and practices you explore along the way are the tools that support your transformation in any moment.

As you transform the spiritual energy you give out, this in turn will change the circumstances you find yourself in and moves you towards liberation.

Your dharma therefore poses the question “what is the most evolutionary thing I can be doing right now?”, “Am I living true in each moment?”.

If karma is the totality of your thoughts, words and actions then Dharma is your soul guiding you to think, speak and act in a way that is evolutionary to yourself and society.

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